Without expectations

In Her Tiruppavai, while talking of flowers offered in worship,

Andal uses the word ‘thoomalar.’ Here She wants to indicate

that the flowers should be offered out of bhakti, and

not expecting a quid pro quo, elaborated Kidambi Narayanan

in a discourse.


Suppose a man owns some property. His son cannot demand  that his father should give him a share in the property. Nor can he lay down the quantum to be given to him. It is for the parent to decide when and how much he should give to each of his children. In the same way, it is not for us to demand things of the Lord. It is the Lord who will decide what each of us should be given.


Kooratazhvan’s sons were not married and Kooratazhvan,

immersed in service to Lord Ranganatha and to Ramanuja,

did not give the marriage of his sons a thought. But his wife

was worried about their sons remaining unmarried. She

wondered why her husband did not take steps to get them

married. She urged him to do something for the future of his

sons, and to ask Lord Ranganatha to help in the matter.

Kooratazhvan, however, was determined not to ask the Lord

for anything. When he went to the Srirangam temple as he

did everyday, the Lord asked him if anything was the matter.

Kooratazhvan, said that people were talking about the unmarried  state of his sons. But Kooratazhvan did not pray for their early marriage. He did not put forward any request before the Lord. But the Lord took it upon Himself to see that

the sons of Kooratazhvan were married soon. The Lord

knew what Kooratazhvan’s family needed and He ensured

that the sons of His devotee were married.


The Lord knows what our problems are; and when the

time is ripe, He offers us solutions. Sometimes the solutions

may not be what we looked for, but we must learn to accept

them as His will.


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